Thursday, October 3, 2013

Why Do Women OverThink In Relationsips

Hello everyone, I am back by popular demand... Ok nah I'm Jk LOL. But someone special wanted me to write on this topic and I feel as if most can relate to it. Guys understand this very clearly; most women can't help but to overthink or feel some type of way, when she's in a brand new relationship, this is a BRAND NEW risk that she is taking with her heart. Some of us normally rush into relationships without knowing who we are dealing with, which leads to the cycle of heartbreak. It has nothing to do with the men we pick and chose it has everything to do with us women, don't be mad at me ladies, But it is the truth, we don't know how to take our time simply because we are looking for that "One". You do not have to kiss many frogs to find your prince; that is just the fairy tail story of it, this isn't Disney channel princess movies, this is real life. Back to overthinking, when we normally meet a guy that shows us "Different" we don't understand why so we try to find everything wrong; when there's nothing wrong at all. Women are emotional creatures and we feel more than a man feels in any kind of situation no matter how big or small. We see how perfect you are but it still seems as if its a gimmick, a fraud, a fake. In the back of our mind we are waiting for you to do something wrong so we can be right. In reality a broken woman wants to be fixed, loved, heard, held and so much more that its hard for a man to do, so we end up thinking you just might be doing it for the next chick, lol yes we do think that way. We start to think maybe I'm just not enough when in reality that guy just don't know how to show emotion. Ladies sometimes you have to read and understand your man instead of assuming his character; he wants to love, hold, kiss and caress you but have you ever thought that maybe he's been heartbroken too?, have you ever thought maybe he's in the same position as you? how afraid he is to give his all without getting anything back? ladies we are not the only ones that rush into things, we are not the only ones that get hurt, abused etc. The overthinking leads to exactly what you send out. I truly believe that us women do overthink 95% of the time. Guys understand that you have to make your lady/wife or whatever feel secure, make her feel a way so she won't have a doubt that she is fine in the situation she is IN. You don't have to do to much but show a little more. This also goes to my ladies, yes; this is a new risk but take it. How will you ever find that "One" if you don't move on and take that risk with your love life? sometimes what you go through should only be a lesson to understand what you should or should not take. Stop blaming your past relationships. MOVE ON!