Tunnel Vision (Inner Self)

Hello my readers :) Thanks to my cousin Mariah I've found a great topic to talk about. Tunnel Vision, When you see that light at the end of the tunnel do you walk straight or let the distractions of life distract you? Most of the time we miss out on opportunities for various reasons. We let the simple things distract us from something so much bigger, but that only comes with life's lessons. For example, you are in college; you have a huge test that you have to study for BUT there's a party going on that your friends invited you to, do you go or stay in and study? most of the time we go to that party. LOL! Don't be ashamed. Sometimes its ok to NOT hang with the crowd, or go to the popping parties just so you can get things done on time. Sometimes its ok to be that nerd because you are the light that's at the end of the tunnel. All that you're trying to accomplish is for yourself! Take the time out to find your inner self, take the time out to figure what it is that you need to do to move forward. The many things I can say I learned in the 22 years of living is that everyone has their own light why not shine on your own? why not pick up yourself to do what has to be done? I won't say that it is easy, but when you have the passion about whatever you would like to do in life go hard or go home. Nothing in life is easy so whenever you finish what you've been trying to finish it only feels great, you feel accomplished, you feel as if you can take on any challenge that is thrown at you. Let go of the temporary things that can mess it up for the long term. Work hard now so that later you'll be able to relax. remain focused, strong willed and motivated. I'm going through a similar transition in my life where I had to realize that the fun can wait. I want to start NOW I see the light, I see where I can be. All I have to do is just remain focused and keep my eyes on the prize. I also learned that you have a clearer mind, organized all the things you need to get to where you want to be. Lastly, not everyone needs to know your every move or what you're about to do next, these things you keep private. Everyone doesn't need to know what you're capable of, SURPRISE them. Show and TELL. If anyone asks what you're up to just show them. you'll be looked at like "sheesh she's been on her grind, that's why she/he has been missing." Be that person that nobody EVER  knows what's next with you. Just be great at whatever you do and remember you're trying to get to that light that's at the end of the tunnel.

When You're Finally Free

Wow! Its been awhile. I have so much to write about but I have no clue where to start. So many different things I've been through; through out 2013 till now. Some good, some bad. Out of the many things I've learned though out last year was "Patience". Patience to let things happen on its own, living without any worry because things always seem to come out "OK". I've learned how to be a better mother, friend, mate ETC. So many times we live life worrying about how, what, when and why. In life its best to let things expose itself; that's with everything As in: relationships, friendships, jobs. Let life takes its course with you. Less worry, less stress but more faith and confidence. Most people don't understand that our thoughts determine everything. Instead of wasting time thinking of all the negative things that can happen; fill your thoughts with positive things that WILL happen. Speak all great things into existence. This is where patience come in, we all need to understand that things doesn't happen over night. Let me use me as an example. I've been praying for peace and freedom for 3 years and my prayers were finally answered 2/24/2014. I've also realized a lot of things about people, I realized that people are so afraid of just being themselves because they are so afraid of being judged. At times we are so worried about the wrong things about who's doing what, when and who. All that time and energy put into that can be put into something productive. Its like I've seen people dislike the people that can just keep it real with themselves and there lives; but the only reason they are upset is because they've been sheltered for so long by an image they cant keep up with. When we truly understand why we are here that's when we finally be free and live. When we finally realize the things that ARE important and the things that AREN'T things would make better sense. When WE finally free are corrupted minds things will seem much more understanding! When we are able to work together with NO HATE! we will understand the true meaning of coming together. Last but not least When you're finally FREE you'll see why life is worth living for.

Why Do Women OverThink In Relationsips

Hello everyone, I am back by popular demand... Ok nah I'm Jk LOL. But someone special wanted me to write on this topic and I feel as if most can relate to it. Guys understand this very clearly; most women can't help but to overthink or feel some type of way, when she's in a brand new relationship, this is a BRAND NEW risk that she is taking with her heart. Some of us normally rush into relationships without knowing who we are dealing with, which leads to the cycle of heartbreak. It has nothing to do with the men we pick and chose it has everything to do with us women, don't be mad at me ladies, But it is the truth, we don't know how to take our time simply because we are looking for that "One". You do not have to kiss many frogs to find your prince; that is just the fairy tail story of it, this isn't Disney channel princess movies, this is real life. Back to overthinking, when we normally meet a guy that shows us "Different" we don't understand why so we try to find everything wrong; when there's nothing wrong at all. Women are emotional creatures and we feel more than a man feels in any kind of situation no matter how big or small. We see how perfect you are but it still seems as if its a gimmick, a fraud, a fake. In the back of our mind we are waiting for you to do something wrong so we can be right. In reality a broken woman wants to be fixed, loved, heard, held and so much more that its hard for a man to do, so we end up thinking you just might be doing it for the next chick, lol yes we do think that way. We start to think maybe I'm just not enough when in reality that guy just don't know how to show emotion. Ladies sometimes you have to read and understand your man instead of assuming his character; he wants to love, hold, kiss and caress you but have you ever thought that maybe he's been heartbroken too?, have you ever thought maybe he's in the same position as you? how afraid he is to give his all without getting anything back? ladies we are not the only ones that rush into things, we are not the only ones that get hurt, abused etc. The overthinking leads to exactly what you send out. I truly believe that us women do overthink 95% of the time. Guys understand that you have to make your lady/wife or whatever feel secure, make her feel a way so she won't have a doubt that she is fine in the situation she is IN. You don't have to do to much but show a little more. This also goes to my ladies, yes; this is a new risk but take it. How will you ever find that "One" if you don't move on and take that risk with your love life? sometimes what you go through should only be a lesson to understand what you should or should not take. Stop blaming your past relationships. MOVE ON!

2013

HAPPY NEW YEAR! it's a new  year, I am so excited about this year. It feels like a fresh start, a new beginning. Like a new book with an interesting cover, you're so anxious to read what it is about. I don't know about you all but I wanna do things very differently this year, surround myself around people that will push me while pushing themselves, Keep all things i'm doing between God and I, keep my faith at a level 10. Another thing I would like to do is start planning my business and by the end of the year or before that it'll be up and running. Let this year be an accomplishing year for you, don't give up your goals just because you feel as if it may take to long, or you don't have enough money ETC. Let this year be a year with no excuses. An area I would like to focus more in my life this year is making ME happy, putting me first, sticking and being loyal to the people that deserves my loyalty and trust. I realized that even if I am a loyal person and I try to put my trust in people that not everyone deserves it because they'll take that; use it and you. Started this year without my mother is very hard but I know she has no worries about me, and I know she's fine where she's at. 2013 and many years after that to come can be great or horrible for you, but it's your choice. Some of us makes life so hard when it can be very simple. God has written our lives out way before our time, But with our rebellious and sinful ways we take different routes to experience some of the things that shouldn't even happened, But I guess things does happen for a reason so it can be a lesson. Lets not make stupid mistakes and use "that things happen for a reason" as an excuse because many things can and could of been prevented. Lets do better, support and genuinely love each other. Life would be much better when you have nothing but positive people around you, Keep these people around because they can only motivate and push you to go further. God is good, stay in prayer!

When Life Brings You Unexpected BS!

BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! Tell whatever it is save it, because you are on a move. The unnecessary drama, dealing with that bitter boss, or whatever it is that stops you or stresses you out. We as people tend to focus on what doesn't matter in life all the time. Like what people think of us, say about us when that should be irrelevant to the human mind. How can you possibly move on in life thinking what is this person saying about me? or how does this person feels about me? SO WHAT! where does that take you? I also witnessed that on a celebrities Instagram, they never respond to the positive but always put what the negative person has to say on blast. Listen that doesn't make you look good it only shows that you have to much time on your hand to spot out what a negative "FAN" has to say. You are only giving that person the relevance they don't deserve. Positive comments should always outweigh and motivate you to continue to get more great people on your side to push you. Say if you dealing with a horrible boss and at the moment this job has blessed you in ways you can't imagine, Don't let that boss stray you away from your blessing, You asked God for a job and he gave you one, He didn't say having that job will make everything great and dandy there is a little something you're going have to deal with, let me see if you can deal with this situation with a humble heart. Don't fuss nor curse your boss out because that only shows even after your prayed and received what you prayed for, you didn't trust God to handle the little problems you're having in that work place, relationship, school or whatever challenge it is. Everything huge or even little situation in life is a test. God moves in silence we may not see what he's doing but he's working in our favor every hour, minute and second. Sometimes we lose hope, faith and patience but that's all we need to get by in life. That's my lesson learn in life and I hope it's yours. When life brings you BS ignore it, step all over it because you are trying to keep it moving with a POSITIVE mindset!

How Do You Know It's Love?

How do you know it's love? when it doesn't have to be questioned. Love is something that can not be explained even if you tried to explain it. We all have our own thinking about what love is but it is unconditional and real. When a person has your attention and you can't stray from that. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out if this is it because you don't wanna be unsure when you're really sure. Sometimes we are mistaken when we fall for someone are you really in love with that person or what that person does? are you infatuated by their ways or simply them? loving someone is loving them whole, all together. When you realize you have fallen into loving that person you're falling in love with everything. I sometimes see that girls and guys fall in love with appearance before they even get to know the person so they call that love at first sight. Many don't believe in that but you know what I think? I think it's a mental thing, when you see someone attractive the first thing you think to yourself is I want that person and i'm going to get them. That isn't love, love is when you know the person in and out and love them without a care in the world. Falling in love with someone that wants the best for you, treats you as you are suppose to be treated. Usually I see that people are desperately to find love that they'll give their love to just anyone when that shouldn't even be the case. Love is patient, waiting for the right love is the best thing to do, while you're waiting your turn have fun and mingle. Forcing love is like forcing a new born to walk it's just not going to work. When you finally find your match you'll tell the big difference from forcing and letting things just happen. Love doesn't have to be forced when it's real. Love doesn't have to be advertised because when others just see you two in public the love would be obvious. This thing called love is real, I really dislike when people say *fuck love* but why Fuck it? don't let your past heartbreaks ruin the true meaning of love, that you have to bash it. Love didn't do anything, you simply let your heart love the wrong person. Remember heartbreaks are suppose to be lessons learned. Like I always say mature yourself mentally and emotionally so you when the real thing does come you wouldn't have to miss out on it.

Time, Faith, Patience Is All He Needs!

I may talk about faith a lot, But one thing about faith it'll take you further than you know. Time is everything,  When we die time will still be here for the next person to enjoy so why not appreciate time when you can? In life we all can be very impatient for the things we actually want, but sometimes the things that we do want isn't what we need. God knows what's best for us and what's not but don't ever think he isn't listening, some of the things are better off waiting for so understand that it'll take a while. Without patience and faith comes frustration when in reality you probably couldn't even handle what you wanted when you wanted it. In life God doesn't bring you all your blessings at once because He knows what you can and cannot handle at the time. Everyone goes through something no matter if you're at the age of 5 or 55 there are somethings that God put you through that some couldn't probably survive through it. He will never give you more than you can bear He knows your strengths and weaknesses, so before you feel like you can't remember HE can. Don't give up on that school paper, job, family, child, relationship(marriage) or whatever you feel like giving up on he hears your cry's but you cannot pray and worry. Pray and have faith, and patience because in due time everything will work in your favor believe me, I am a living testimony I've been through things I haven't told a soul but it isn't anybodies business but God and I.Your trials will become blessings. Believe! Believe! Believe!
**though God should of left me behind long time ago he never left, to be where he wants us to be it will not take a day or two but he knows your heart!**