Why Do Women OverThink In Relationsips

Hello everyone, I am back by popular demand... Ok nah I'm Jk LOL. But someone special wanted me to write on this topic and I feel as if most can relate to it. Guys understand this very clearly; most women can't help but to overthink or feel some type of way, when she's in a brand new relationship, this is a BRAND NEW risk that she is taking with her heart. Some of us normally rush into relationships without knowing who we are dealing with, which leads to the cycle of heartbreak. It has nothing to do with the men we pick and chose it has everything to do with us women, don't be mad at me ladies, But it is the truth, we don't know how to take our time simply because we are looking for that "One". You do not have to kiss many frogs to find your prince; that is just the fairy tail story of it, this isn't Disney channel princess movies, this is real life. Back to overthinking, when we normally meet a guy that shows us "Different" we don't understand why so we try to find everything wrong; when there's nothing wrong at all. Women are emotional creatures and we feel more than a man feels in any kind of situation no matter how big or small. We see how perfect you are but it still seems as if its a gimmick, a fraud, a fake. In the back of our mind we are waiting for you to do something wrong so we can be right. In reality a broken woman wants to be fixed, loved, heard, held and so much more that its hard for a man to do, so we end up thinking you just might be doing it for the next chick, lol yes we do think that way. We start to think maybe I'm just not enough when in reality that guy just don't know how to show emotion. Ladies sometimes you have to read and understand your man instead of assuming his character; he wants to love, hold, kiss and caress you but have you ever thought that maybe he's been heartbroken too?, have you ever thought maybe he's in the same position as you? how afraid he is to give his all without getting anything back? ladies we are not the only ones that rush into things, we are not the only ones that get hurt, abused etc. The overthinking leads to exactly what you send out. I truly believe that us women do overthink 95% of the time. Guys understand that you have to make your lady/wife or whatever feel secure, make her feel a way so she won't have a doubt that she is fine in the situation she is IN. You don't have to do to much but show a little more. This also goes to my ladies, yes; this is a new risk but take it. How will you ever find that "One" if you don't move on and take that risk with your love life? sometimes what you go through should only be a lesson to understand what you should or should not take. Stop blaming your past relationships. MOVE ON!

2013

HAPPY NEW YEAR! it's a new  year, I am so excited about this year. It feels like a fresh start, a new beginning. Like a new book with an interesting cover, you're so anxious to read what it is about. I don't know about you all but I wanna do things very differently this year, surround myself around people that will push me while pushing themselves, Keep all things i'm doing between God and I, keep my faith at a level 10. Another thing I would like to do is start planning my business and by the end of the year or before that it'll be up and running. Let this year be an accomplishing year for you, don't give up your goals just because you feel as if it may take to long, or you don't have enough money ETC. Let this year be a year with no excuses. An area I would like to focus more in my life this year is making ME happy, putting me first, sticking and being loyal to the people that deserves my loyalty and trust. I realized that even if I am a loyal person and I try to put my trust in people that not everyone deserves it because they'll take that; use it and you. Started this year without my mother is very hard but I know she has no worries about me, and I know she's fine where she's at. 2013 and many years after that to come can be great or horrible for you, but it's your choice. Some of us makes life so hard when it can be very simple. God has written our lives out way before our time, But with our rebellious and sinful ways we take different routes to experience some of the things that shouldn't even happened, But I guess things does happen for a reason so it can be a lesson. Lets not make stupid mistakes and use "that things happen for a reason" as an excuse because many things can and could of been prevented. Lets do better, support and genuinely love each other. Life would be much better when you have nothing but positive people around you, Keep these people around because they can only motivate and push you to go further. God is good, stay in prayer!

When Life Brings You Unexpected BS!

BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! Tell whatever it is save it, because you are on a move. The unnecessary drama, dealing with that bitter boss, or whatever it is that stops you or stresses you out. We as people tend to focus on what doesn't matter in life all the time. Like what people think of us, say about us when that should be irrelevant to the human mind. How can you possibly move on in life thinking what is this person saying about me? or how does this person feels about me? SO WHAT! where does that take you? I also witnessed that on a celebrities Instagram, they never respond to the positive but always put what the negative person has to say on blast. Listen that doesn't make you look good it only shows that you have to much time on your hand to spot out what a negative "FAN" has to say. You are only giving that person the relevance they don't deserve. Positive comments should always outweigh and motivate you to continue to get more great people on your side to push you. Say if you dealing with a horrible boss and at the moment this job has blessed you in ways you can't imagine, Don't let that boss stray you away from your blessing, You asked God for a job and he gave you one, He didn't say having that job will make everything great and dandy there is a little something you're going have to deal with, let me see if you can deal with this situation with a humble heart. Don't fuss nor curse your boss out because that only shows even after your prayed and received what you prayed for, you didn't trust God to handle the little problems you're having in that work place, relationship, school or whatever challenge it is. Everything huge or even little situation in life is a test. God moves in silence we may not see what he's doing but he's working in our favor every hour, minute and second. Sometimes we lose hope, faith and patience but that's all we need to get by in life. That's my lesson learn in life and I hope it's yours. When life brings you BS ignore it, step all over it because you are trying to keep it moving with a POSITIVE mindset!

How Do You Know It's Love?

How do you know it's love? when it doesn't have to be questioned. Love is something that can not be explained even if you tried to explain it. We all have our own thinking about what love is but it is unconditional and real. When a person has your attention and you can't stray from that. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out if this is it because you don't wanna be unsure when you're really sure. Sometimes we are mistaken when we fall for someone are you really in love with that person or what that person does? are you infatuated by their ways or simply them? loving someone is loving them whole, all together. When you realize you have fallen into loving that person you're falling in love with everything. I sometimes see that girls and guys fall in love with appearance before they even get to know the person so they call that love at first sight. Many don't believe in that but you know what I think? I think it's a mental thing, when you see someone attractive the first thing you think to yourself is I want that person and i'm going to get them. That isn't love, love is when you know the person in and out and love them without a care in the world. Falling in love with someone that wants the best for you, treats you as you are suppose to be treated. Usually I see that people are desperately to find love that they'll give their love to just anyone when that shouldn't even be the case. Love is patient, waiting for the right love is the best thing to do, while you're waiting your turn have fun and mingle. Forcing love is like forcing a new born to walk it's just not going to work. When you finally find your match you'll tell the big difference from forcing and letting things just happen. Love doesn't have to be forced when it's real. Love doesn't have to be advertised because when others just see you two in public the love would be obvious. This thing called love is real, I really dislike when people say *fuck love* but why Fuck it? don't let your past heartbreaks ruin the true meaning of love, that you have to bash it. Love didn't do anything, you simply let your heart love the wrong person. Remember heartbreaks are suppose to be lessons learned. Like I always say mature yourself mentally and emotionally so you when the real thing does come you wouldn't have to miss out on it.

Time, Faith, Patience Is All He Needs!

I may talk about faith a lot, But one thing about faith it'll take you further than you know. Time is everything,  When we die time will still be here for the next person to enjoy so why not appreciate time when you can? In life we all can be very impatient for the things we actually want, but sometimes the things that we do want isn't what we need. God knows what's best for us and what's not but don't ever think he isn't listening, some of the things are better off waiting for so understand that it'll take a while. Without patience and faith comes frustration when in reality you probably couldn't even handle what you wanted when you wanted it. In life God doesn't bring you all your blessings at once because He knows what you can and cannot handle at the time. Everyone goes through something no matter if you're at the age of 5 or 55 there are somethings that God put you through that some couldn't probably survive through it. He will never give you more than you can bear He knows your strengths and weaknesses, so before you feel like you can't remember HE can. Don't give up on that school paper, job, family, child, relationship(marriage) or whatever you feel like giving up on he hears your cry's but you cannot pray and worry. Pray and have faith, and patience because in due time everything will work in your favor believe me, I am a living testimony I've been through things I haven't told a soul but it isn't anybodies business but God and I.Your trials will become blessings. Believe! Believe! Believe!
**though God should of left me behind long time ago he never left, to be where he wants us to be it will not take a day or two but he knows your heart!**

Let A Man Be A Man!

Yes, this may start something and my ladies just might get upset but one thing I've realized about myself I can act like a dude in a relationship or when I'm talking to someone.  My brother always say "Sis you a nigga" meaning I act like a guy lol, I hate to hear it but it's so true. The music, books, reality shows brainwash us so much that we think we have to be this person that we are not built to be. There is nothing wrong with being independent because I know exactly what that is about. It says act like a lady but think like a man, no matter how many times you read that book we will never understand a man even if we try to think like them. Out of all the guys you've dated you probably got hurt but I can tell you every hurt was different, This all means that you'll have to be more cautious about the next person. Every guy you meet isn't your soul mate,  every guy you've dealt with should of been a lesson learned. When you finally meet a REAL MAN it will be such a big turn off to him to see you doing the things that he's suppose to be doing. He wouldn't mind paying for dinner or taking you out a couple of times. I know! I know! it's been a trend that a girl pays for the tab every now and then which is ok ESP if he's worth it and deserves it. Ladies let the man treat you, and make you feel special. A man will never do things for a girl that he isn't feeling. Stop trying to read his mind, let him speak, get to know him. Let him be a man and you be the lady. Does a lady open the door for the man? NO! I mean I may sound a little old fashion but I see nothing wrong with that. I've finally learned my lesson, I will let a man be a man but that never gives him the right to disrespect you, disrespect is a NO GO, never be ok with it. As I close I would like to say this, I feel like with time when you realize how you should be treated and you finally find someone that treats you as such you'll have every reason to let go and be treated the way you should be. <3

Who, What And Why!

Hey my lovely readers, sorry I haven't been on here writing, but I have a valid excuse my PC was down for a couple of days. This topic was inspired by one of my fave readers Simone. Writing was mainly in me since a little girl, my mother use to write, my brother and sister does also. My mother had journals on top of journals,  writing everything that came to mind but no one knew about them until after she passed away. I have a few people that inspires me to go for what I love and never giver give up what so ever. One main person I would name is my mother, I haven't met someone as hard working as her. My mother went to school for law, worked in doctors and law offices until she build her own empire which was her own business doing taxes. Maybe i'm not where I should be but she taught me with faith it will never be hard to get to where you wanna be. It takes a lot of hard work, faith and prayer to keep you stable in this lifetime. Another person I would name is my brother, the man in my life, the father figure to my daughter and I. He's been there even if we fight or disagree on things and that's vise versa. He is a special man and he will be the one walking me down the isle one day. He pushes me to do what I got to do in my life for my daughter and I. I have a few more people that motivate, inspire and pushes me to know that the only time the hustle stop is when i'm dead: my hairstylist/sister, my daughters godmother*Cuzz*, Rachel, Lesly, Rose, Bianca AND mr. Anggy you guys mean so much to me words can't even explain. Life is all about keeping the positive people around that only wants the best for you in life. They may be at the top but they wouldn't feel right if you're not there with them. Like I always tell my friends or people around me be careful who you keep around because you never know who's praying on your downfall. Remember in the process of coming up you will stumble sometimes fall so keep your faith and remain strong.